This is the hardest part before we having sex with partners.Tell or not?
Well,I did miserable things about this,I kept as a secret in the begining.But that hurt someone and made us unhappy at all.Then I tried to be honest and responsible,love and sex life getting better.
First,as I said,we need to tell our partners before we have sexual contact with them.It really a bad idea if you choose to tell them after sleep with them.To be honest, responsible, active, and loving are always the best policy.Even if he/she is just your casual partner,but they deserve to know the fact.Now we continue to the second part,how to tell:
before you start the topic with telling your partner how common this infection really is,1 in 5 to 1 in 4 sexually active adults are infected – over 50 million american adults and 90% do not know they are infected.Why telling this?It will help your partner to know some facts about herpes and you are not the only
sufferer,this always a good start of the “Talk”.
Choose your own words and find the way that’s most comfortable for you.Ask a question:Have you ever had a cold sore orfever blister?.Serious talk:I want to talk with you about something that’s important to me/I really feel I can trust you and I want to tell you something verypersonal.For safety:Let’s talk about safer sex. I am sure you can do better than I did.
And he think we should Instead of saying “I have herpes,” say “I carry the virus for herpes. ”.What will this help?If you say “I have herpes”,that will make your partner think you are having herpes outbreak now and you are always contagious.Yes,that’s true,this start may end your conversation or your partner ship. And what about ” I carry the virus for herpes” .Much better!It makes your herpes a manageable issue.Because up to 80% people carry the virus HSV1.which causes cold sores around the mouth, and can also be transmitted to the genitals during oral sex.
Explaining them sleeping with someone who has genital herpes does not mean they are guaranteed to get it.Many people with infected partners never become infected themselves even after decades of being together.And there are many couples in which one partner has HSV2 and the other partner does not,this will help your partner relax and not worried so about your herpes or get repacted.
I have to repeat this again.Give your partner time to do some research and learn about herpes.I am sure you know more than he/her does,so,help them with it.Also you can print some information about herpes before you tell him/her to give a starting point.If he/she cares about you,they will learn about herpes and accept it.
Hope all these can do a little help for you to tell.Good luck!